27 January 2017

Promoting Self-Love

Talking and promoting self-love and self-confidence is a taboo subject.

Self-love to some, can be associated with vanity, self-obsession, and taking far too many selfies.

But even though it isn't a crime in any shape or form to love our appearance, do you think we struggle to love the person we are, on the inside?

Personally I think on the whole we do.

We very easily put ourselves down, without batting an eyelid.

Why did i do that?
I am rubbish at this!
Why haven't I done that?
I could have done that better?
I am never going to be able to do that!

Imagine if we doubted, judged and treated family and friends the way we do ourselves?

I doubt anyone would like us, so why do we treat ourselves with such blatant disregard, and do it so easily?                                                  

  "It's not your job to like me, it's mine".  (Author Unknown)

So how do we start to like "me"?

Focusing on our achievements, our good traits, and the positive aspects we bring to our own, and other people's lives.
If we struggle to think of any (as some of us are far too humble) then what do the people closest to us love about us?
Ask them.
Are we caring, funny, loving, thoughtful, hard-working, have an infectious laugh, or have a lovely smile?
I am sure they will be happy to reel off a whole list.

Self-belief works alongside the above. With all our heart, we should believe we have good traits, believe we can achieve, believe we deserve everything we work so hard for, and most of all believe that we are worthy of our own love.

Accepting we are all different: It is so easy to look at other people's lives and think we are under performing, under achieving, and lagging behind in life. But the truth is each person's path is unique, and it cannot be compared to another. It is not always easy or plain sailing, but by projecting all our energy into feeling incredibly grateful for what we do have in our lives, instead of focusing on what we don't have, will over time, help us to love, embrace, and become proud of the life we have.

Gratitude: I ramble on about gratitude a lot, I think it is the easiest way to banish any self- doubt and feelings of anxiety, and it's so simple to practise.
To spare five minutes each evening and to simply write down a couple of things YOU feel you done well that day.
This helps us firstly recognise, and then focus on the positive factors we project into this world every day.
From making a friend laugh who is feeling down, to surviving a super stressful day without hitting the wine, or someone haha - well these are all things we don't really give ourselves enough credit for.

It is a work-in- progress , but to incorporate some of the above factors into everyday-life, then we may just start to like and treat the most important person in life (YOU) with the respect they deserve.

What are your thoughts on promoting self-love?





  1. I'm all about self love - I totally agree with you on this one. Focus on you and be the best version of yourself 💕

    Annie xx | www.musingsofamakeupjunkie.com

  2. This is amazing! I've bookmarked it for when I'm in need of a boost. You're so motivating Ant xxxx

  3. I love this!! Definitely need a little boost every now and again - and that skirt/dress is also beautiful. xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  4. Promoting self-love is so important, especially in today's world full of criticism and doubt. We need to celebrate out achievements without feeling self indulgent!

    Roxie | The Beautiful Bluebird

  5. I love the point about gratitude, I used to do that in notes on my iPhone but must start again!

    Amy - http://fourcatsplusus.co.uk

  6. I love this, it is so good and I will be re reading over a few times I should imagine, you look absolutely amazing in the photo's, I love that outfit on you xxx

    Zoe ♥ MammafulZo

  7. Love this post, so positive xxx

  8. So many amazing tips and things I need to remind myself of more x

    Cass | http://www.cassandramyee.com/

  9. Such a great read! I am struggling with this at the moment so reading something like this is always nice for a little boost of positivity :)

    Sophia Meola | A Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog


  10. I love posts like this. Always great to read that other people struggle with the same things lol! PS you look so AMAZINGGGGGG xx

    1. Ah thank you Laura, glad you enjoyed the post. xxx

  11. Love it. Please check out how I balayaged my own hair!

    Kisses xo | From Aliona With Love

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  12. Definitely need to learn to love myself more.

    Karen x

  13. I'm all about self-love. This was such a great read and gave me a little boost this morning. Thank you!

    Georgia x

  14. This was such a lovely post, self-love is definitely something that needs to be paid more attention xx



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