The label "fake" is being thrown about a lot in this day in age, and the definition and the way it is being used, well it seems to be a little overused, generalised and undefined.
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations when we don't feel comfortable, self assured or confident.
This can sometimes mean we behave in ways that we may not be proud of, but you know - we all have flaws.
This doesn't make us fake, sometimes it can show traits of high self-control and strength.
And here is why...
Just because we didn't really get on with Brenda last year, it doesn't mean we are being fake because we now like her. Maybe we grew? Maybe she grew? Maybe we opened our mind?
Maybe we understand her a bit better now? We are entitled to change our opinion.
This doesn't make us fake.
This shows growth.
We get up, be strong, and put the biggest smile on our face - and face the world. When in reality all we really feel like doing is curling up in a ball, and crying uncontrollably for the what seems like the remainder of our life. This doesn't make us fake.
This shows determination and dignity.
People can hurt us, treat us bad, and make us feel sad. Our natural reaction is to feel angry, retaliate and voice our opinion on the matter. But we rise above, ignore, and kill them with kindness.
This doesn't make us fake. This shows self-respect.
We can behave differently in certain social circles, from raving the night away with friends, to being super professional and efficient in a meeting the next day. This isn't being fake.
This shows we can adapt and have diversity.
We're not all perfect. That's a fact. We can sometimes say or do things to hurt others, and we can talk about people behind their backs.
I think everyone can be guilty of this, as long as this isn't something we get great joy out of, or do regularly.
This just shows we have flaws and insecurities.
So I think before we label anyone "fake" we could simply delve a little deeper to try and understand the reasons behind peoples actions, and kinda realise that we can (as the kids call it these days) all be a little "fake" now and again.
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations when we don't feel comfortable, self assured or confident.
This can sometimes mean we behave in ways that we may not be proud of, but you know - we all have flaws.
This doesn't make us fake, sometimes it can show traits of high self-control and strength.
And here is why...
Maybe we understand her a bit better now? We are entitled to change our opinion.
This doesn't make us fake.
This shows growth.
We get up, be strong, and put the biggest smile on our face - and face the world. When in reality all we really feel like doing is curling up in a ball, and crying uncontrollably for the what seems like the remainder of our life. This doesn't make us fake.
This shows determination and dignity.
People can hurt us, treat us bad, and make us feel sad. Our natural reaction is to feel angry, retaliate and voice our opinion on the matter. But we rise above, ignore, and kill them with kindness.
This doesn't make us fake. This shows self-respect.
We can behave differently in certain social circles, from raving the night away with friends, to being super professional and efficient in a meeting the next day. This isn't being fake.
This shows we can adapt and have diversity.
We're not all perfect. That's a fact. We can sometimes say or do things to hurt others, and we can talk about people behind their backs.
I think everyone can be guilty of this, as long as this isn't something we get great joy out of, or do regularly.
This just shows we have flaws and insecurities.
So I think before we label anyone "fake" we could simply delve a little deeper to try and understand the reasons behind peoples actions, and kinda realise that we can (as the kids call it these days) all be a little "fake" now and again.
This is SO true and so well written! People need to stop over-using it and generalising on the term too much. Great post lovely xx
ReplyDeleteThank you Annie, I totally agree. xxxx
DeleteLOVE this post! So well articulated & so true! xx
ReplyDeleteBeautylymin
Ah thank you. xxx
DeleteLoved this post, you've got a way with words lady x
ReplyDeleteThanks lovely Laura. :o) x
DeleteGreat post lovely. People throw the fake word around so often now. What does it really mean though? Things change and people change. Hate it when others make assumptions x
ReplyDeleteThank you, I know it is thrown around so much lately isn't it? xx
DeleteI love it when you do posts like these! It's such an overused word and I agree with everything you said xx
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post. I hate it when you can see both sides of an argument and agree with both but for different reasons - but your considered fake or two faced for not siding with someone.
ReplyDeleteI really love this post and I was sat nodding along with everything you said, fake is a word that is thrown about far too much these days and as you have pointed out so well in your post, it isn't always the case at all, great post Ant, loved it xxxx
ReplyDeleteI agree with this, opinions and thoughts can Change but people will happily say that's being fake. People use the term far too loosely.
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Totally agree with you and can we both just give Brenda a high five x
ReplyDeleteFabulous post and so true! We are all changing all of the time, and these changes don't make us fake, they make us growing human beings. We are constantly learning, and what we learn effects who we are!
ReplyDeleteSarah :)
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An interesting post. And yes, the word is used a lot which I think is understandable to a degree in this industry BUT it's over-used and simply just an easy insult to throw. My god when people have called me fake in the past it infuriates me as I (think) I'm such an honest person lol! xx
ReplyDeleteYasssss, you go girl. Love this.
ReplyDeleteKaren x
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A very good point. Fake is a word overused, at least in a generation younger then mine, and is often trhown around lightly.
ReplyDeleteLinda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking
Amen! This is such a great post! Well said!
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This is such a brilliant post! Sometimes people just need to mind their own business and worry about themselves rather than who gets on and who doesn't or how people behave in certain situations x
ReplyDeleteLOVE this post, it's so true!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great post and a good reminder as well. Thanks for writing about this x
ReplyDeleteCass | CassandraMyee
I couldn't agree with this more. Being nice costs nothing and I think I'd rather be deemed fake than someone who blurts out exactly what I'm thinking at all times! X
ReplyDeleteSuch a great post, it's such an over-used term these days and people need to stop judging!
ReplyDeleteGemma x | flutterandsparkle.com
Love this post! So well written.
ReplyDeleteGeorgia x
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